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The fellow on the train was talking on his cell phone so loudly that the rest of us could hear, and it was a pretty unsettling conversation at 6:50 in the morning – a conversation we’ve all had at one time or another about our children or family members or close friends. It was a story about alienation and substance abuse and the inability to forgive, and it had all the elements of a first-rate tragedy.

His son was addicted to prescription drugs, and there was nothing he could do. He had tried intervention, appeals, fatherly advice, bailing him out of jail and sending him to rehab; and, for this aging father, the price had been a high one, financially and emotionally. And yet, all his efforts produced no results.

"There’s nothing else I can do," he concluded. "All I can do is pray."

It sounded like the course of action of last resort. Nothing else worked, so the only thing he could do was let go and let God and turn his son over to the care of his Higher Power.

How many times have we uttered those words, "All you can do is pray." We say them fatalistically when we reach the point where our efforts have been fruitless and we realize no human efforts will be able to solve the problem, whether it’s a troubled marriage, a tormented alcoholic, a financial crisis or a terminal diagnosis from the doctor.

"All you can do is pray," and we understand that we have to turn the situation over to God and accept his will for us, whatever it may be.

Of course, long before we reach the stage of last resort, we should be relying on prayer, and it shouldn’t have the connotation of a death sentence, but rather of hope and faith that God can work out the thorniest problems in ways that our puny human minds can’t even begin to conceive.

All of us generally underestimate the power of prayer and fail to realize that God is doing his thing to help us long before we finally conclude it’s time to fall on our knees and ask for help. Prayer, to many of us, is the last resort when it should be the first resort.

As Jesus said, our heavenly Father knows our needs before we do, and he’s always there to assist us and guide us.

I thought of the power of prayer and exactly how much society underestimates it – and misinterprets it – after reading a story recently about a respected British doctor who risked losing his job because he told a 24-year-old patient that praying to Jesus would get him out of his "rut."

In our distorted and misguided secular society, the act of praying is always viewed as somehow subversive. And the severity of the crime gets worse for those who suggest that Christ might be the answer. It can cost you your job and get you a lot of negative press coverage because people tend to view you as a crackpot.

So when the patient told his mother about the doctor’s advice, she flipped out and complained to the General Medical Council, which oversees British physicians. (Of course, it raises the question of why the mother of a 24-year-old was calling the shots for her adult son.)

The doctor, who is a former missionary, defended himself by pointing out it was done with the patient’s consent – and that the young man was a regular patient. The next thing you know, the British press was all over the story, but fortunately, the doctor’s colleagues rallied to his defense.

One said, "All good doctors try to treat their patients as whole persons, not just biochemical machines. That does sometimes include spiritual matters, dealing with questions of meaning and purpose."

Let’s hope – and certainly pray – that the young man listened to what the doctor had to say.

Prayer works, and if more of us turned to prayer early on, there would be less anxiety and fewer emotional difficulties, and probably a lot less mental illness and addiction.

J.F. Pisani is a writer who lives with his family in the New Haven area.

Events Calendar

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Performing Arts Center at Simsbury Meadows, Simsbury, United States
HARTFORD SYMPHONY ORCHESTRA TALCOTT MOUNTAIN MUSIC FESTIVAL: The Music of The Who with Brody Dolyniuk, guest vocalist; Brent Havens, conductor Friday, July 18, 2014 │ 7:30 p.m. [...]
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Our Lady of Victory Parish, West Haven, West Haven, United States
Our Lady of Victory Parish Community will have its annual West Haven Neighborhood Carnival from 6-10 p.m. [...]
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Convent of the Sisters of St. Joseph, West Hartford, West Hartford, Conn., United Kingdom
The annual Tabor House GIANT tag sale/auction/bake sale will take place July 17-19 at the convent of the [...]
Date :  July 18, 2014
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Doubletree by Hitlon, Bristol, United States
Father Alex Avendano will speak at a Magnificat Breakfast beginning at 9 a.m. July 19 at the Doubletree by [...]
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Convent of the Sisters of St. Joseph, West Hartford, West Hartford, Conn., United Kingdom
The annual Tabor House GIANT tag sale/auction/bake sale will take place July 17-19 at the convent of the [...]
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Our Lady of Victory Parish, West Haven, West Haven, United States
Our Lady of Victory Parish Community will have its annual West Haven Neighborhood Carnival from 6-10 p.m. [...]
Date :  July 19, 2014
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St. Paul Catholic High School, Bristol, Bristol, United States
A “Fundamental Football Clinic” for players in grades four through nine is planned for the week of July 21 at St. Paul Catholic High School in Bristol.
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Chippanee Golf Club, Bristol, Bristol, United States
The 15th annual Rev. Robert A. Lysz Memorial Golf Tournament will have a shotgun start at 12:30 p.m. July 31 at [...]
Date :  July 31, 2014

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