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aaa-fatherhood 8690Kyle Parrish stands next to a poster for the National Fatherhood Initiative.HARTFORD – Just a year ago, Kyle Parrish was in a bind. Not yet 21 years old, he was in a relationship with a woman and had a son who was barely a year old. Mr. Parrish suffered an injury on the job and was without income while awaiting a settlement from Workmen’s Compensation. The bills mounted. So did the stress.

Luckily, the athletic, 6’4" former high school football player lived near Catholic Charities’ Asylum Hill Family Center on Gillett Street, and as he was entering a store in the same building he struck up a conversation with a man who worked with Catholic Charities’ new Pathways to Responsible Fatherhood program at the family center. Like all initiatives of Catholic Charities in the Archdiocese of Hartford, the fatherhood program is funded in part through donations to the Archbishop’s Annual Appeal.

"We went from talking about my situation to him saying he might be willing to help me but at the same time, I had to be willing to help myself," Mr. Parrish said. "I had to partake in it; otherwise [my situation] wasn’t going to change."

A year later, he feels like a new man. "Right now, I’m blossoming. It was like fate," he said.

Lois Nesci, CEO of Catholic Charities, said the program began about two years ago because fathers were an underserved segment of the population.

"Although they were somewhat involved in the lives of their children, they recognized, and we recognized, that they needed to learn better parenting skills," Ms. Nesci said. "They needed to learn ways to be more engaged with their children and their families and to develop the resources in order to become more self-sufficient. In addition to parenting skills, we also provide them with classes in financial literacy and also help them build their employment skills."

The program helps men participate more, and more meaningfully, in the lives of their children, she said. Unemployed men who have become discouraged learn skills to make them more employable.

"As they’ve developed the skills for employment, their self-confidence increases," she said.

The program is free for fathers and expectant fathers. It offers discussions about responsible fatherhood, employment services, healthy relationship skills and more. Services include "24/7 Dads," a 12-week program focusing on how to be "a great dad 24 hours a day, seven days a week," according to Alwyn Foster, project assistant. "It’s the group where we talk about everything that affects dads, from raising your child to working," he said. "It’s a very challenging task. The schools are teaching them one thing, and their friends are doing something else."

Tiffany Murasso, director of Early Childhood and Family Center Programs, said the program is in four Catholic Charities Family Centers in Hartford and one in Waterbury.

Ms. Murasso said, "The Promoting Responsible Fatherhood Program helps dads by providing services in three key areas: positive parenting, economic stability and healthy relationships. The program helps dads develop parenting strategies and skills, learn how to help children with their growth and development, learn how to communicate effectively with their partners or with the mother of their child, and how to successfully co-parent."

She added, "Many of our dads come for the economic stability component because they need to gain employment so they can financially support their children."

A peer group meets and dictates its own agenda. "We just help to move it along. One week, the subject might be jobs; the next week, the subject might be interview skills; the next week, the subject might be child support," Mr. Foster said.

There are about 95 men enrolled in Pathways to Responsible Fatherhood, he said.

"It’s helped my relationship with my son’s mother," Mr. Parrish said. "It shows her that I’m doing something constructive to be a better father. It also helped me learn how women are, her expectations. It’s a day-by-day process."

He added, "It helped me personally understand the demands and responsibility that a father actually does have. It’s more than just, you know, giving them money and pick up the kid. It’s a lot more that you have to take part in. It’s even taking care of yourself, because if I don’t take care of myself, if I’m not healthy, God forbid something happens to me, and then he won’t have a father."

But men get a lot more than GED classes, employment and money management skills,  and discussions on coping and conflict resolution. "What they also get – and what is so powerful about it – is that they feel heard, and understood," Ms. Murasso said. "Finally, there’s a program to support them, because they need help, too."

It’s all working for Mr. Parrish, one of more than 600 men who have been served by the fatherhood program in less than two years.

"I just happened to go to a job fair yesterday, which was a pretty good success, if I may say," he said. "I got a few leads. I just have to follow up on my end in terms of sending off emails and copies of my resume."

He used to work in security and loss prevention, but now he wants to work in social services, helping others the way he’s been helped, he said. "Being in the program has given me more of a drive to help others like myself. A lot of us don’t know about these programs. I didn’t know about them," he said.

"They helped me with my independence," Mr. Parrish said. "They actually helped me to become a man."

In addition to financial support from the Archbishop’s Annual Appeal to Catholic Charities, funding for this project was provided by the United States Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families.

 

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Planned Parenthood, Enfield, Enfield, United States
Concerned Citizens 4 Life  will hold a series of peaceful prayer vigils in front of the new Planned [...]
Date :  April 13, 2014
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Planned Parenthood, Enfield, Enfield, United States
Concerned Citizens 4 Life  will hold a series of peaceful prayer vigils in front of the new Planned [...]
Date :  April 14, 2014
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Planned Parenthood, Enfield, Enfield, United States
Concerned Citizens 4 Life  will hold a series of peaceful prayer vigils in front of the new Planned [...]
Date :  April 15, 2014
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Planned Parenthood, Enfield, Enfield, United States
Concerned Citizens 4 Life  will hold a series of peaceful prayer vigils in front of the new Planned [...]
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Our Lady of Pompeii Church, East Haven, East Haven, United States
The annual Novena to Our Lady of Perpetual Help that began on March 5 continues at 7 p.m. Wednesdays at [...]
Date :  April 16, 2014
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Planned Parenthood, Enfield, Enfield, United States
Concerned Citizens 4 Life  will hold a series of peaceful prayer vigils in front of the new Planned [...]
Date :  April 17, 2014
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Planned Parenthood, Enfield, Enfield, United States
Concerned Citizens 4 Life  will hold a series of peaceful prayer vigils in front of the new Planned [...]
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St. Margaret Mary Church, South Windsor, South Windsor, United States
A Novena for Divine Mercy will be held at St. Margaret Mary Church beginning at 7 p.m. on Good Friday, April 18, and concluding at 3 p.m. on Divine Mercy Sunday, April 27. The Divine Mercy Chaplet will [...]
Date :  April 18, 2014
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Planned Parenthood, Enfield, Enfield, United States
Concerned Citizens 4 Life  will hold a series of peaceful prayer vigils in front of the new Planned [...]
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St. Margaret Mary Church, South Windsor, South Windsor, United States
A Novena for Divine Mercy will be held at St. Margaret Mary Church beginning at 7 p.m. on Good Friday, April 18, and concluding at 3 p.m. on Divine Mercy Sunday, April 27. The Divine Mercy Chaplet will [...]
Date :  April 19, 2014
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Planned Parenthood, Enfield, Enfield, United States
Concerned Citizens 4 Life  will hold a series of peaceful prayer vigils in front of the new Planned [...]
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St. Margaret Mary Church, South Windsor, South Windsor, United States
A Novena for Divine Mercy will be held at St. Margaret Mary Church beginning at 7 p.m. on Good Friday, April 18, and concluding at 3 p.m. on Divine Mercy Sunday, April 27. The Divine Mercy Chaplet will [...]
Date :  April 20, 2014
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St. Margaret Mary Church, South Windsor, South Windsor, United States
A Novena for Divine Mercy will be held at St. Margaret Mary Church beginning at 7 p.m. on Good Friday, April 18, and concluding at 3 p.m. on Divine Mercy Sunday, April 27. The Divine Mercy Chaplet will [...]
Date :  April 21, 2014
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St. Margaret Mary Church, South Windsor, South Windsor, United States
A Novena for Divine Mercy will be held at St. Margaret Mary Church beginning at 7 p.m. on Good Friday, April 18, and concluding at 3 p.m. on Divine Mercy Sunday, April 27. The Divine Mercy Chaplet will [...]
Date :  April 22, 2014
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Mercy Hall, University of St. Joseph, West Hartford, West Hartford, United States
WEST HARTFORD – The Art Gallery at the University of St. Joseph (USJ) will present the 2014 Vincenza Uccello Fine Arts Lecture featuring [...]
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Caritas Christi Center, Hamden, Hamden, United States
Full of Grace: Gentle Yoga and Centering Prayer will meet for seven Wednesdaysat the Caritas Christi [...]
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Our Lady of Pompeii Church, East Haven, East Haven, United States
The annual Novena to Our Lady of Perpetual Help that began on March 5 continues at 7 p.m. Wednesdays at [...]
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St. Margaret Mary Church, South Windsor, South Windsor, United States
A Novena for Divine Mercy will be held at St. Margaret Mary Church beginning at 7 p.m. on Good Friday, April 18, and concluding at 3 p.m. on Divine Mercy Sunday, April 27. The Divine Mercy Chaplet will [...]
Date :  April 23, 2014
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Pope John Paul II School, New Britain, New Britain, United States
Pope John Paul II Catholic School in New Britain will have an open house for new and prospective students [...]
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Caritas Christi Center, Hamden, Hamden, United States
Dr. Tim Gray's study of the Gospel of Luke expliains the fundamental themes of Jesus' messianic mission. [...]
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St. Brigid Parish, West Hartford, West Hartford, United States
The St. Brigid Ladies Guild annual Monte Carlo Whist Party will be held at 7 p.m. April 24 in St. Brigid [...]
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St. Margaret Mary Church, South Windsor, South Windsor, United States
A Novena for Divine Mercy will be held at St. Margaret Mary Church beginning at 7 p.m. on Good Friday, April 18, and concluding at 3 p.m. on Divine Mercy Sunday, April 27. The Divine Mercy Chaplet will [...]
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St. Martha School, Enfield, Enfield, United States
St. Martha School in Enfield will hold an open house on Thursday, April 24, from 10-11:30 a.m. and 6:30-8 p.m. Tours will be conducted; and teachers, students, parents of students and administrators will [...]
Date :  April 24, 2014
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Archdiocesan Center at St. Thomas Seminary, Bloomfield, Bloomfield, United States
An international food, wine and beer tasting will be held to benefit Immaculate Conception Shelter and [...]
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St. Margaret Mary Church, South Windsor, South Windsor, United States
A Novena for Divine Mercy will be held at St. Margaret Mary Church beginning at 7 p.m. on Good Friday, April 18, and concluding at 3 p.m. on Divine Mercy Sunday, April 27. The Divine Mercy Chaplet will [...]
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Cathedral of St. Joseph, Hartford, Hartford, United States
The Sacred Sounds Concert Series at the Cathedral of St. Joseph in Hartford resumes at 7:30 p.m. on [...]
Date :  April 25, 2014
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Connor Chapel, University of St. Joseph
HARTFORD – Chorus Angelicus & Gaudeamus will join the combined choirs of St. Patrick-St. Anthony [...]
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St. Mary School, Newingtonn, Newington, United States
St. Mary School in Newington will host its annual wine and beer tasting event from 6:30-9:30 pm. March 1. [...]
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St. Mary School, Newingtonn, Newington, United States
St. Mary School's annual wine tasting and auction will take place from 6:30-9:30 p.m. April 26. The event will be hosted by NBC TV personality Brad Field.  Some of the items to be [...]
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St. Margaret Mary Church, South Windsor, South Windsor, United States
A Novena for Divine Mercy will be held at St. Margaret Mary Church beginning at 7 p.m. on Good Friday, April 18, and concluding at 3 p.m. on Divine Mercy Sunday, April 27. The Divine Mercy Chaplet will [...]
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Holy Family Retreat Center, West Hartford, West Hartford, United States
Holy Family Retreat Center, West Hartford, will present music and prayer for the Easter seaso at 7:30 p.m. [...]
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St. Monica Church, Northford, Northford, United States
NORTHFORD – St. Monica's Rosary Society will have its spring craft fair from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. April 26 [...]
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St. Mary-St. Michael School, Derby, Derby, United States
DERBY – Back by popular demand, organizers say, St. Mary-St. Michael School will sponsor a community shred day from 9 a.m. to noon April 26 at the school, located at 14 Seymour Ave.  Eco Shred [...]
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Caritas Christi Center, Hamden, Hamden, United States
"Making Friends with the False Self," a contemplative prayer program, will be presented by Father Bill [...]
Date :  April 26, 2014
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St. Ann Church, Bristol, Bristol, United States
St.  Ann Church in Bristol will celebrate Divine Mercy Sunday on April 27 with a Mass at 2:30 p.m. [...]
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Knights of Columbus Museum/St. Stanislaus Church, New Haven, United States
NEW HAVEN – A relic of Blessed John Paul II will be available for the veneration of the public at St. Stanislaus Church in New Haven during a 3 p.m. prayer service on April 27, the day of the [...]
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Mary Our Queen Church, Plantsville, Southington, United States
Divine Mercy Holy Hour - Mary Our Queen Church, Southington, 3-4 p.m. April 27th.  Benediction, Homily, Chaplet of Divine Mercy, Veneration of relic of St. [...]
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Legion of Christ Seminary, Cheshire, Cheshire, United States
A Divine Mercy Holy Hour will be held at 3 p.m. April 27 at the Legion of Christ Seminary in Cheshire. It [...]
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St. Michael Church, Litchfield CT
HARTFORD – Chorus Angelicus & Gaudeamus will join the combined choirs of St. Patrick-St. Anthony [...]
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St. Margaret Mary Church, South Windsor, South Windsor, United States
A Novena for Divine Mercy will be held at St. Margaret Mary Church beginning at 7 p.m. on Good Friday, April 18, and concluding at 3 p.m. on Divine Mercy Sunday, April 27. The Divine Mercy Chaplet will [...]
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Pope John Paul II School, New Britain, New Britain, United States
The new St. John Paul II Catholic School in New Britain will be re-dedicated on April 27, when a series of [...]
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Charter Oak Cultural Center/Riverfront Mortensen Plaza, Hartford, United States
NEW HAVEN – The Office for Catholic Social Justice Ministry (OCSJM) of the Archdiocese of Hartford, in [...]
Date :  April 27, 2014
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Farmington, United States
"Resurrection:  How can we respond to the needs of today and bring new life to ourselves and our world?" Deacon Art Miller, director of the Office for Black Catholic Ministries for the [...]
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Farmington, United States
"Resurrection:  How can we respond to the needs of today and bring new life to ourselves and our world?" Deacon Art Miller, director of the Office for Black Catholic Ministries for the [...]
Date :  April 29, 2014
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Caritas Christi Center, Hamden, Hamden, United States
HAMDEN – Caritas Christi Center will sponsor a day bus trip to St. Joseph the Worker Shrine in Lowell, [...]
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St. Anthony Parish Center, New Haven, New Haven, United States
The St. Anthony Society of St. Anthony Parish will have its 37th annual raffle and card party at 7 p.m. April 30 in [...]
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Caritas Christi Center, Hamden, Hamden, United States
Full of Grace: Gentle Yoga and Centering Prayer will meet for seven Wednesdaysat the Caritas Christi [...]
09:00 AM
Farmington, United States
"Resurrection:  How can we respond to the needs of today and bring new life to ourselves and our world?" Deacon Art Miller, director of the Office for Black Catholic Ministries for the [...]
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Our Lady of Mercy Parish, Plainville, Plainville, United States
Our Lady of Mercy Parish will offer a five-part program for lay Catholics titled “We the People of [...]
Date :  April 30, 2014

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