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Have you ever been offended or disappointed by a priest?

I’m referring to the emotional pain caused by rudeness, arrogance, sarcasm or indifference. Over the years, I’ve talked to many people who have changed parishes or stopped going to Mass altogether because they were upset with a priest.

Usually the complaints go something like this: “I left a message that I needed to talk to him right away, and he never called me back!” or, “He did the funeral Mass for my mother, and it was obvious he was just going through the motions!” or, “His homilies are just so boring!” or, “I told him the music at Mass is awful, and he didn’t change a thing!”

Let me ask a couple of frank questions: Do we really expect our priests to be perfect? Do we really hold them to such a high standard that we get angry when they fall short? I’m not saying it’s fine when our priests get stressed out and tired, and as a result say things that offend people. But priests are only human, just like you and me. God uses imperfect people to spread his perfect message of the Gospel.

Let me ask another question: When it turned out that President Nixon was a crook, did you renounce your United States citizenship and move to a different country? Or if you weren’t around in 1974, insert the name of a more recent president who you personally think was or is especially corrupt. (Or for that matter, insert the name of a future president. If you’re anything like me, you’re not exactly looking forward to January 20, 2017, regardless of who wins.)

I’m pretty sure all the people I’ve met who’ve left the church because they were irked by something a priest said or did are still living here in America. They know that the ideals that our nation was founded upon – liberty and opportunity – are still pretty terrific despite certain leaders who have fallen short.

By comparison, the ideals the church was founded upon are a zillion times more important than even the good ol’ U.S. of A. After all, liberty and opportunity in this life are wonderful, but true forgiveness of sins and eternal life in heaven are a whole lot better. And unlike our country, which was founded by brilliant yet flawed men, our church was founded by the divine Incarnate Son of God, Jesus Christ.

Parish priests, just like presidents of the United States, have been given temporary authority. The institutions they govern are much greater than they are.

Wouldn’t it be nice if all our priests – and we – were kind and loving all the time? Sure. Wouldn’t it be nice if priests – and we – never said or did anything rude or offensive? Yeah, that would be great. But is it going to happen anytime soon? Don’t hold your breath.

If you’re not thrilled with your parish priest, please remember that he is not the focus of the parish; Jesus Christ, who becomes really, truly present in the Eucharist at every Mass, is. Focus on Jesus, not the priest.

Also, pray for your priest, at least as often as you complain about him. You just might discover that your unrealistic expectations are half the problem.

Bill Dunn is a freelance writer who resides in Torrington. His most recent book is titled The Gospel According to Morty. He can be contacted via his blog at

alertAt the Spring Assembly of the U.S. bishops, Cardinal Joseph Tobin suggested that a delegation ofbishops go to the border to see for themselves what was happening to newly arrived immigrants, families and children. On July 1 and 2, Cardinal Daniel DiNardo, president of the U.S. bishops conference, and five other bishops conducted a pastoral visit to the diocese of Brownsville, Texas. Stops included Mass at the Shrine of Our Lady of San Juan del Valle with the community, a visit to anHHS/OBR Shelter and Mass for the families there, a visit to the Customs and Border Patrol processing center in McAllen, TX, and a press conference at the end of their visit. Catholic News Service accompanied the bishops on their border trip. 

  1. Backgrounder and analysis of the bishops’ trip to the border: Cardinal DiNardo told CNS, “You cannot look at immigration as an abstraction when you meet” the people behind the issue.
  2. At final press conference, Cardinal Daniel Dinardo said the church was willing to be part of any conversation to find humane solutions because even a policy of detaining families together in facilities caused “concern.”
  3. Bishops serve soup to immigrant families at a center run by Catholic Charities and listen to their stories. Scranton Bishop Joseph Bambera said he found hope in hearing the people in the room talk about what’s ahead. They didn’t speak of making money but of finding safety for their children, he said, driven by “the most basic instinct to protect your family.”
  4. At an opening Mass he Basilica of Our Lady of San Juan del Valle-National Shrine near McAllen, Texas, Bishop Daniel Flores of Brownsville told Massgoers, “The bishops are visiting here so they can stop and look and talk to people and understand, especially the suffering of many who are amongst us,”

A delegation of U.S. bishops goes on a fact-finding mission at the U.S.-Mexican border to learn more about Central American immigration detention.

Following their visit to an immigrant detention center, U.S. bishops said they are even more determined to call on Congress for comprehensive immigration reform.